AuthenticSouthern

Oh I didn’t mean to assume you’re anorexic! :(  I didn’t want you to take it that way.

I understand wanting biological kids, but $15k is a lot - wow! If you can afford it, that’s great, but I hope you’re not going into debt because of it. Kids are expensive as it is. So you’re already paying someone, then - she’s pregnant? Or trying to conceive?

I can’t say that I personally understand your stance on weight gain - I’ve been up and down (mostly up) for years and although it’s a struggle, it’s not that much of a struggle for me. I enjoy food more than exercise. I’ve known women who only gain about 10 lbs during pregnancy - which is all baby. The girl I mentioned earlier gained only about 10 or 15 lbs, but her baby was about 8 lbs and then you have to consider the weight of the fluids and everything that you lose during birth. She was back to her pre-pregnancy weight in a matter of weeks, easily. Me, on the other hand, I lost about 20 lbs due to extreme nausea and vomiting (not fun!) then gained all that back - at the end of my pregnancy, I was only about 10 lbs over my pre-pregnancy weight. Every woman is different. A lot of women (myself included) use pregnancy as an excuse to eat everything and anything - giving in to all cravings (like ice cream at midnight… every night…). A lot of women stay very in shape and the only visible weight gain is in their tummy.

This bit is just my own opinion and feel free to do with it as you please: You will never be satisfied with your body. Never. It will never be “perfect” - there’s always something else to “fix”. But you can choose to love your body with all its imperfections - most of which I’m sure people like me wouldn’t even see as imperfections. I’m not trying to nag at you or anything, but I strongly encourage you to love your body. Love yourself. You’re beautiful.